Would you be willing to get in a serious relationship with this guy?
- He tells you upfront he does not wish to remarry because he had a bad marriage previously.  
- Although he does not want to get married, he would be committed to the relationship (not a player).
- He makes decent income but does not own a home for himself.
- He has grown children from the previous marriage.
- He no longer has to provide financial support to his ex nor his children.
- He is in good health and actually looks good & young for his age.

We have this debate among our family members.  The females (including me) said most women wants to get marry so we would not want to get involved with someone that tells us he does not want to remarry again. Also we think not owning a house as a middle age person might not look favorable either.  

The males (including my husband) asks why you need to have a marriage license to be happy/committed especially when you're middle age already.  If he's committed in the relationship and they live together as a couple, he comes home from work every day and not out with friends, isn't that good enough? Also, they said owning a house for a single person does not make sense either êspecially if that person does not like to rent out their house to strangers.  They think owning a house does not make a person as established because they could have a huge mortgage on it as well.

Your thoughts?

ly dị gùi thì date gùi xong mạnh ai về nhà đo ngủ ..marry chi nữa chi cho mệt ốc, hem hạp thì bỏ quen ngươi khác sống lại cuộc sống single  

mình chọn dating hem cần married.  Khi 1 người đàn bà trãi qua gùi thì họ cũng hem phải yếu ớt như hồi mới yêu, có thì quen hem thì thôi


Vì em đã qua thời mong chờ ...

Vậy Đẹp chỉ thích lâu lâu dating cho vui nhưng nhà ai nấy ở chứ 0 thích moving in and live as a couple cho đở bớt cô đơn?

Remarried or not thi tuy the next person...cai nay moi nguoi moi y'. Phai date coi him ra sao trong tinh cam thoi . co nhieu nguoi after divorce ho so chu married lam. Vu own a home i more concerned.

ga10 wrote:Vậy Đẹp chỉ thích lâu lâu dating cho vui nhưng nhà ai nấy ở chứ 0 thích moving in and live as a couple cho đở bớt cô đơn?

không married nưa~ đầu sis Gà ..nếu có gì thì sẽ dating cho vui rồi mạnh nhà ai náy ở, về già thì sức khoẻ quan trọng nhất có sức khoẻ là vui vẻ gùi, kiếm cho mình nhiều việc làm ở nhà baking hay làm vườn thì đầu ốc không cần phải đấu tranh với sự cô đơn ..

Nguoi nay la VN hay nguoi My vay ?

TuTu wrote:Nguoi nay la VN hay nguoi My vay ?

Người VN nhưng tánh americanized hơn Vietnamese!

TuTu wrote:Nguoi nay la VN hay nguoi My vay ?

chị nghĩ chắc VN vì Mỹ họ không quan trọng hoá đến vu married ..


tình yêu tuổi mới lớn có khác ..hồi hộp đợi cho+`, yêu nhau chỉ có 2 cái quần xì líp 2 bàn tay trắng tạo nên sự nghiệp ..

còn tình yêu sau biệt kinh kỳ tính toán vì sợ cô đơn thì thành dựa dẫm vào người khác  ..mà sự cô đơn là do chính mình tạo ra,  kiếm nhiều việc làm baking/gardening/hiking/exercises ..kiếm đủ việc làm thì sẽ bớt cô đơn ..nếu cưới ông sau về thì lỡ mình bị bệnh hoạn người đó có kiêng nhẫn lo cho mình không?   nói chung là phải biết tự lo cho mình, tự lập thui ..

cho nên yêu gùi mạnh nhà ai nấy ở, tiền ai nấy giữ ..con ái nấy lo khỏi mệ ốc lo con ông con tui, nhà tui nhà ông  tính toán nhiều cũng đu? mệt ốc gùi, có nhiều người phải hỏi ý kiến con cái tùm lum ..rồi 2 bên con ông còn bà ..cô đơn hem thấy mà thấy càng mệt ốc 

Women still want to remarry if her first marriage failed. I think it’s for security reasons. Men, don’t want to remarry because 1 time to*n? toi gia.

Are you asking for yourself? hehe

BeiBei wrote:Women still want to remarry  if her first marriage failed. I think it’s  for security reasons. Men, don’t want to remarry because 1 time to*n? toi gia.

Gà cũng nói với OX nếu 0 married thì đang ở chung với nhau tự dưng 1 ngày 0 đẹp trời ổng just walks out cái rụp là end cái relationship sao. OX nói cho dù có married thì he can still walks out because you cannot force a person to stay in a marriange/relationship. The only thing different is that you might be able to get alimony support if you are married but most divorced guy is likely to have some kind of prenuptial agreement if they decide to remarrry!

Speaking of that, what do you think about prenuptial agreement? Would you marry someone if they ask for a prenuptial agreement? Is it okay for 2nd marriage but not 1st marriage?

LoveStory08 wrote:Are you asking for yourself? hehe

Of course not! I am still happily married!

Dong y voi ox chi Ga ve vu walk out chp du married or not . 1st or 2nd marriage gi thi cung fai take time to know someone. Hy vong voi second marriage thi nguoi ta khon ngoan hon va biet what they like or NOT like in a partner. Gap a womenizer the 1st 2nd or 3rd cung chung nao tat nay thoi

Gà: I'm ok with prenuptial. I think for practicality, it's good. Ví dụ nếu khi con Gạo lớn, their partners yêu cầu phải có prenuptial, it's ok with me, Gạo không upset.
Gạo nghĩ mình sẽ không remarry đâu, tại nghĩ khó tìm ai giống ox mình
Và if remarry, Gạo sẽ ask for prenuptial.

ga10 wrote:

BeiBei wrote:Women still want to remarry  if her first marriage failed. I think it’s  for security reasons. Men, don’t want to remarry because 1 time to*n? toi gia.

Gà cũng nói với OX nếu 0 married thì đang ở chung với nhau tự dưng 1 ngày 0 đẹp trời ổng just walks out cái rụp là end cái relationship sao.  OX nói cho dù có married thì he can still walks out because you cannot force a person to stay in a marriange/relationship.  The only thing different is that you might be able to get alimony support if you are married but most divorced guy is likely to have some kind of prenuptial agreement if they decide to remarrry!

Speaking of that, what do you think about prenuptial agreement?  Would you marry someone if they ask for a prenuptial agreement?  Is it okay for 2nd marriage but not 1st marriage?

Most men will go for a widow or divorced woman due to money. Neu minh, minh se ko bao gioi remarry nua.

Rice wrote:Gà: I'm ok with prenuptial. I think for practicality, it's good. Ví dụ nếu khi con Gạo lớn, their partners yêu cầu phải có prenuptial, it's ok with me, Gạo không upset.
Gạo nghĩ mình sẽ không remarry đâu, tại nghĩ khó tìm ai giống ox mình
Và if remarry, Gạo sẽ ask for prenuptial.

mấy người có tiền thì họ thích prenuptial ..vì tiền mình làm ra kho^? cu+c. ai cũng muốn chia sẽ cho con cái mình hết 

BeiBei wrote:

ga10 wrote:

BeiBei wrote:Women still want to remarry  if her first marriage failed. I think it’s  for security reasons. Men, don’t want to remarry because 1 time to*n? toi gia.

Gà cũng nói với OX nếu 0 married thì đang ở chung với nhau tự dưng 1 ngày 0 đẹp trời ổng just walks out cái rụp là end cái relationship sao.  OX nói cho dù có married thì he can still walks out because you cannot force a person to stay in a marriange/relationship.  The only thing different is that you might be able to get alimony support if you are married but most divorced guy is likely to have some kind of prenuptial agreement if they decide to remarrry!

Speaking of that, what do you think about prenuptial agreement?  Would you marry someone if they ask for a prenuptial agreement?  Is it okay for 2nd marriage but not 1st marriage?

Most men will go for a widow or divorced woman due to  money. Neu minh, minh se ko bao gioi remarry nua.

Me too sis. I would never remarried. If anything were to happened to me or to hubby (god forbid) I would just be dating--protecting my finances.

LoveStory08 wrote:

BeiBei wrote:

ga10 wrote:

Gà cũng nói với OX nếu 0 married thì đang ở chung với nhau tự dưng 1 ngày 0 đẹp trời ổng just walks out cái rụp là end cái relationship sao.  OX nói cho dù có married thì he can still walks out because you cannot force a person to stay in a marriange/relationship.  The only thing different is that you might be able to get alimony support if you are married but most divorced guy is likely to have some kind of prenuptial agreement if they decide to remarrry!

Speaking of that, what do you think about prenuptial agreement?  Would you marry someone if they ask for a prenuptial agreement?  Is it okay for 2nd marriage but not 1st marriage?

Most men will go for a widow or divorced woman due to  money. Neu minh, minh se ko bao gioi remarry nua.

Me too sis.  I would never remarried.  If anything were to happened to me or to hubby (god forbid) I would just be dating--protecting my finances.

I’m worried that I will fall in love again roi will nghi toi remarrying. To prevent that from happening, minh se ko date hoac quen ai het anymore.

But if I’m destined for another one thi….tien minh se go*i? my mom het.

BeiBei wrote:

LoveStory08 wrote:

BeiBei wrote:

Most men will go for a widow or divorced woman due to  money. Neu minh, minh se ko bao gioi remarry nua.

Me too sis.  I would never remarried.  If anything were to happened to me or to hubby (god forbid) I would just be dating--protecting my finances.

I’m worried that I will fall in love again roi will nghi toi remarrying. To prevent that from happening, minh se ko date hoac quen ai het anymore.

But if I’m destined for another one thi….tien minh se go*i? my mom het.

Can you even fall in love at that age? Lol

LoveStory08 wrote:

BeiBei wrote:

LoveStory08 wrote:


Me too sis.  I would never remarried.  If anything were to happened to me or to hubby (god forbid) I would just be dating--protecting my finances.

I’m worried that I will fall in love again roi will nghi toi remarrying. To prevent that from happening, minh se ko date hoac quen ai het anymore.

But if I’m destined for another one thi….tien minh se go*i? my mom het.

Can you even fall in love at that age? Lol

Hoi xuan….thi ai biet duoc nao? Who knows, some younger guy can bring that dead butterfly in your heart back to life roi sao?